My best friend is getting married. It is her 1st wedding, but the groom's 2nd. They have all the household necessities they need. People keep asking her if she is registered anywhere. We are having a personal shower for her and are having a Jack and Jill. Is she still supposed to register somewhere or is there a way to say they just want money without being tacky? She was wondering if they can register at their Travel agency. I hope you can help.

There just isn't a way to request money with out being tacky. If guests ask what she would like, she can drop hints, but cannot directly tell them what to give. Hints that cash would be preferred always start with, "We really have all the household things we need, and we're just happy to have you included in our celebration… but, we're saving up for…" Guests who are comfortable giving money as a gift will figure out that a contribution to their savings project is really what they would like. Some guests simply never give cash! So she should always give a real project that they are saving for, like their honeymoon trip, in case a guest decides to get them something they can use when they finally spend the savings on the stated project.

Registering at a travel agency would only not seem tacky if she is also registered somewhere else where guests can buy other gifts. This way several registries can be listed and those who would be happy giving money can select the travel agency.

You could have a travel theme at the Jack and Jill shower, and they could register somewhere (like a local department store) for travel type items which they could use (travel alarm, shoe bags, travel hair dryer, toiletry bags, passport holder, money belts, etc.) This theme may then be a "hint" to the guests that money towards the trip would be appropriate, without actually specifying it.