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SHOWERS
The custom of a "bridal shower" came about when a poor Dutch miller fell in love with a maiden whose father forbade the match and refused to provide a dowry. The miller’s friends came to the rescue and "showered" the bride-to-be with enough gifts in order to start housekeeping.
The wedding shower, traditionally a get-together for women only, is now just as likely to include the female and male. A "his and her" shower is a perfect way for the bride’s friends and the groom’s friends to meet each other. It also is easier to plan showers around what both the bride and groom enjoy.
Bridal showers should be scheduled a significant time after the engagement parties, but anywhere from two months to at least two weeks before the wedding. Shower invitations should be mailed at least three weeks in advance if possible. The couple should have registered for gifts at gift registries before the showers and these can be listed, along with decorating colors, in the invitations. The timeframe exception is brides who live far away from where the wedding is held. Then showers may be planned for when she is in town so she doesn't have to make extra trips. Or, if there's absolutely no time before the wedding, a shower can be given after the couple returns from their honeymoon.
Shower guests should also be invited to the wedding, unless it's an office shower. Don't invite the same friends and relatives to multiple showers (one shower gift per person/family should be enough). Although, the bride and groom's mothers and the maid of honor may come to multiples and need not bring a gift to every one.
Any friend of the bride and groom may give a shower. Traditionally, it should not be a member of their immediate families. Often, it is the maid of honor and other bridesmaids who host a shower. Plan with your friends when selecting a date, as you may be busy during this time with making other plans for your wedding day. Consult with them as to where you are registered for wedding gift ideas. Then you may wish to choose a theme for the shower. Shower theme ideas are given below:
Kitchen Shower
Kitchen showers offer a wide range of gift ideas and prices.
Gadgets/strainers, peelers, etc.
Nonstick-coated cookware/bakeware
Small appliances/clock, electric skillet, coffee maker, electric can opener, hand
Mixer, crock pot, popcorn maker, deep fryer, etc.
Cookbooks
Canister set – spice rack/spices
Cutlery – cutting board
Utensil set – measuring cups/spoons
Mugs
Salt & pepper shakers
Funnels
Kitchen towels, dish cloths, pot holders, scrub pads, dish soap, laundry soap, etc.
Aprons
Serving bowls, freezer containers, etc.
Bar Shower
Everything the couple will need for stocking a basic home bar.
Assorted liquor
Assorted wines
Assorted liqueurs
Assorted aperitifs
Mixers
Glasses/goblets/snifters
Ice bucket
Cocktail shaker
Wine rack
Bar utensils
A guide to mixing drinks
Carafe
Punch bowl
Pitchers
Coasters
Corkscrew
Blender
Ice crusher
Personal Shower
To pamper the bride and groom at this special time.
| Hers | His |
| Peignoir sets | Pajamas |
| Nightgown | Robe |
| Robe | Terry wrap |
| Teddy | Slippers |
| Bra & bikini set | Razor |
| Camisole | Travel alarm |
| Slips | After shave/cologne |
| Slippers | Travel alarm |
| Padded hangers | Calculator |
| Scents/soaps | Stationery |
| Sachets | |
| Cologne | |
| Dusting powder | |
| Monogrammed stationery |
Plant Shower/Gardening Shower
Gardening tools
Variety of plants
Pots
Potting soil
Plant fertilizer
Planting utensils
Gardening equipment
Plant hangers
Gloves
Gardening clogs
Bulbs/seeds
Plant stand
Book about plants
Watering can
Sun dial
Lawn furniture
Linen Shower
Tablecloths/table runners
Napkins/napkin rings
Placemats
Dish towels/cloths
Potholder/mitts
Towels/bath, hand, guest
Bath sheets
Washcloths
Accessories
Bath mats
Scale
Sheets
Pillows
Pillowcases
Blankets
Electric blanket
Comforter
Bedspread
Pillow shams
Hamper
Rug and lid set
Shower curtain & liner
Gourmet Shower
a joint shower idea for the couple that enjoys cooking and entertaining.
Assorted prepackaged foods
Soufflé dish
Warming trays
Food processor
Stand mixer
Toaster-oven
Matching aprons
Espresso maker
Microwave/convection oven
Molds
Coffee grinder
Poachers
Crepe maker
Vegetable steamer
Wok
Vinegars
Preserves
Herbs & spices
Cheese boards/servers
Baskets
Salad spinner
Food slicer
Hibachi
Yogurt maker
Ice cream maker
Juicer
Serving bowls
Recipe books
Joint Gift Ideas
A place setting of fine china
A place setting of sterling
Informal dinnerware
Flatware
Sterling candlesticks
Crystal decanter set
Electronic games
Stereo equipment
Camera/lens
Gas grill
Sports equipment
Gift certificates
Luggage
Radio
Television
Vacuum cleaner
Garden equipment
Home video equipment
Barbecue Shower
Grill
Charcoal
Picnic basket
Picnic accessories
Lawn ornaments
Yard games (croquet, darts, horseshoes, etc.)
Barbecue utensils
Lighter fluid, starting devices
Cookbook, recipes
Yard/Ornamental lights
Insect repelling devices
Recipe Shower
Each guest brings a favorite recipe and either some of the ingredients or some of the utensils necessary to make the recipe.
Recipe cards (blank)
Recipe box
Recipe books
Recipe holders
Pantry Shower
Canned goods
Prepared foods
Anything for the kitchen cupboard–staples
Paper Shower
Table mats
Paper towels
Personalized stationery
Napkins
Magazine subscriptions
Book matches
Tupperware Shower
Anything made of Tupperware–containers, etc.
Crystal Shower
Any needed glassware, etc.
Holiday Shower
Champagne flutes for New Year's
Christmas ornaments
Christmas table linens
Seder plate for Passover
Flag for Fourth of July and Veterans Day
Turkey plate for Thanksgiving
Ceramic pumpkin for Halloween
Decorations for any other holiday
Of course, these are just some themes for showers. The list can go on and on, depending on what the couple may need or like. Just let your imagination go to work!
If the couple is beginning marriage with virtually nothing, a general shower is probably the best to give, even if you are including the groom. If they are merging households and need to fill in items, a theme shower is the most practical. This way you can indulge the couple with necessities and luxuries at the same time. In any case, consult the bridal registries, family, and mutual friends for gift suggestions. When you decide the type of shower you will hold, be sure to specify it on the invitations.
Shower Activities, Food and Games
The main event at all showers is the bride and groom opening the gifts. Make sure you have one of the hosts or a guest record the gifts and the giver so the bride will have an accurate account when writing out thank you notes. Have someone take snapshots at the shower. This may also be a nice gift from the "photographer." He/she may wish to put together a photo album of the shower.
Refreshments served will depend on the time of day you plan to hold the shower. Keep refreshments as simple as possible. Salads, casseroles, cold cuts, barbecues, sandwiches, etc. are the easiest to make and can be done ahead of time. If you have a theme shower, you may wish to coordinate the food served with the theme. A garden shower could feature vegetable salads, pasta with asparagus, etc., a bar shower could include typical finger foods, like chicken wings, mini pizzas, little wieners, etc., a gourmet shower could include quiche, various cheeses and fancy desserts, a barbeque shower could have barbeque hamburgers, chicken, etc., a holiday shower could have Christmas cookies, Easter ham, or turkey sandwiches, etc... you get the idea.
Games and other fun activities liven up a shower, but don't have too many or play them for too long. Some ideas can include: